From: linda on
DD is 17 months old, happy, healthy and still nurses quite often during the
day and night. She goes through spurts of wanting to eat solids and will
eat lots and at other times just picks. I've never fussed too much as I
know she's still growing well and getting a lot from me.
Only problem is we want to have another child. For a number of reasons we
had wanted to have them close together but at this rate who knows when I'll
get my period back. I have severe polycystic ovarian syndrome and was
originally told that I would probably never have kids. Well DD was
conceived the first time we decided to stop using contraception to see what
would happen, which could have just been a wonderful blessing, or could mean
that maybe it's not too hard for me to get pregant after all.
We co-sleep and I am quite fine with her nursing as much as she wants to in
the night, so it's not that I actually want to stop, but I'm wondering if I
should to increase my chances of getting a period back. Thing is, I might
be one of those women that don't get a period as long as I'm still nursing
even infrequently, plus what if I can't have another baby - I would be
depriving her for nothing. But on the other hand, if I am going to have
troubles having another kid surely I should be trying to get pregnant in
case it takes a while - or not??

I just don't know what to do - DH keeps saying I should wean her just
because she's too old to be nursing anyway (to which I keep explaining that
I want to for as long as she and I still enjoy it) but he doesn't really
mind, I think it's just a society thing.
So the answer for him is easy, but I'm just not sure.

Plus then there would actually be the logistics of night weaning. We plan
on cosleeping for a while yet - till she's ready for her own bed, so that
would make it difficult to wean her although I did read on the Sears site
some ways to go about it. But it involves a couple of weeks of miserable
nights, which I really don't want to subject any of us to when it might not
even make any difference.

Thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated


From: Irrational Number on
linda wrote:

> Thing is, I might
> be one of those women that don't get a period as long as I'm still nursing
> even infrequently, plus what if I can't have another baby - I would be
> depriving her for nothing. But on the other hand, if I am going to have
> troubles having another kid surely I should be trying to get pregnant in
> case it takes a while - or not??

Ahh... what a difficult decision. In your
position, I would keep nursing day and night
for another couple of months and see what
happens. I got AF back at 11 months with
Pillbug and 16 months with Rocky. Both times,
I was still nursing strong.

> I just don't know what to do - DH keeps saying I should wean her just
> because she's too old to be nursing anyway (to which I keep explaining that
> I want to for as long as she and I still enjoy it) but he doesn't really
> mind, I think it's just a society thing.

Rocky is now 2yo and we are still nursing strong.
One thing I have learned, though, is that I need
to have ready answers when I nurse in public! It's
not every day that people see a 2yo nursing and
some people make rude comments.

> Plus then there would actually be the logistics of night weaning. We plan
> on cosleeping for a while yet - till she's ready for her own bed, so that
> would make it difficult to wean her although I did read on the Sears site
> some ways to go about it.

It was not that miserable for us to night wean
and we are still co-sleeping (at 2yo). The first
thing I did was stop nursing to sleep. So, I
would nurse Rocky a good long nursing session
(keep him awake by talking to him or playing, if
I had to). Then, I would stop nursing him while
he was still awake. I also turned my back on him
and pretended to go to sleep. The first couple
of times, he was confused. But, then he started
playing by himself in the dark for 15 minutes,
up to 45 minutes. He would finally lay down and
fall asleep by himself. (I would usually be
asleep by then.)

Once he had figured out that he could fall
asleep without being latched on, I then wore
my nursing bra with a regular t-shirt to bed,
so that it was more difficult for me to just
automatically latch him on in my sleep. Then,
when Rocky fussed for a nursing, I would get
fully awake because I had to do more work to
lift my shirt, unbutton my bra, etc. I would
deliberately do this very slowly, so that
sometimes he fell back asleep before I latched
him on.

There were also a few times that I got up
after he fell asleep and did stuff (clean the
house, quilting) and that's when I realized
that he was nursing only 2x, maybe, in the
night.

So, this was a pretty gentle way of night
weaning. The final thing was that I always
nursed him in the morning when he wanted it,
so that he knew he could nurse in the morning.
I think that also helped.

-- Anita --
From: Engram on
Irrational Number wrote:
> linda wrote:
>
>> Thing is, I might
>> be one of those women that don't get a period as long as I'm still
>> nursing even infrequently, plus what if I can't have another baby -
>> I would be depriving her for nothing. But on the other hand, if I
>> am going to have troubles having another kid surely I should be
>> trying to get pregnant in case it takes a while - or not??
>
> Ahh... what a difficult decision. In your
> position, I would keep nursing day and night
> for another couple of months and see what
> happens. I got AF back at 11 months with
> Pillbug and 16 months with Rocky. Both times,
> I was still nursing strong.

As Anita said, keep going if you want to and see what happens. I got
pregnant with DD when DS was 6 months old and still nursing strong. I didn't
even have my period back. I went off the minipill and two weeks later - BAM!
Up the duff. LOL So even though you're not menstruating you may actually be
ovulating. Some women do.

Aren't there ovulation test kits? Grab one and see what's going on with your
body.

Engram


From: tcmtracey on
On Jun 13, 6:08 pm, "Engram" <engram...(a)yahoo.com.au> wrote:
> Irrational Number wrote:
> > linda wrote:
>
> >> Thing is, I might
> >> be one of those women that don't get a period as long as I'm still
> >> nursing even infrequently, plus what if I can't have another baby -
> >> I would be depriving her for nothing. But on the other hand, if I
> >> am going to have troubles having another kid surely I should be
> >> trying to get pregnant in case it takes a while - or not??
>
> > Ahh... what a difficult decision. In your
> > position, I would keep nursing day and night
> > for another couple of months and see what
> > happens. I got AF back at 11 months with
> > Pillbug and 16 months with Rocky. Both times,
> > I was still nursing strong.
>
> As Anita said, keep going if you want to and see what happens. I got
> pregnant with DD when DS was 6 months old and still nursing strong. I didn't
> even have my period back. I went off the minipill and two weeks later - BAM!
> Up the duff. LOL So even though you're not menstruating you may actually be
> ovulating. Some women do.
>
> Aren't there ovulation test kits? Grab one and see what's going on with your
> body.
>
> Engram- Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -

I also got my period back after a little over a year of nursing my
little man, who is now 19 months and going strong.
I agree that she could do ovulation tests and she could also start
taking her basal temperature every morning. There is a website that
helps you track your temperatures for free. www.fertilityfriend.com
Another suggestion would be to go for acupuncture and Chinese herbs
(but make sure you tell the practioner that you are nursing) to treat
the polycystic ovary syndrome. Avoidance of dampening foods such as
dairy, soy, greasy foods, and sugar will also help the condition.
Tracey (acupuncturist/mom) ;-)

From: linda on
>
>> Plus then there would actually be the logistics of night weaning. We
>> plan on cosleeping for a while yet - till she's ready for her own bed, so
>> that would make it difficult to wean her although I did read on the Sears
>> site some ways to go about it.
>
> It was not that miserable for us to night wean
> and we are still co-sleeping (at 2yo). The first
> thing I did was stop nursing to sleep. So, I
> would nurse Rocky a good long nursing session
> (keep him awake by talking to him or playing, if
> I had to). Then, I would stop nursing him while
> he was still awake. I also turned my back on him
> and pretended to go to sleep. The first couple
> of times, he was confused. But, then he started
> playing by himself in the dark for 15 minutes,
> up to 45 minutes. He would finally lay down and
> fall asleep by himself. (I would usually be
> asleep by then.)
>
> Once he had figured out that he could fall
> asleep without being latched on, I then wore
> my nursing bra with a regular t-shirt to bed,
> so that it was more difficult for me to just
> automatically latch him on in my sleep. Then,
> when Rocky fussed for a nursing, I would get
> fully awake because I had to do more work to
> lift my shirt, unbutton my bra, etc. I would
> deliberately do this very slowly, so that
> sometimes he fell back asleep before I latched
> him on.
>
> There were also a few times that I got up
> after he fell asleep and did stuff (clean the
> house, quilting) and that's when I realized
> that he was nursing only 2x, maybe, in the
> night.
>
> So, this was a pretty gentle way of night
> weaning. The final thing was that I always
> nursed him in the morning when he wanted it,
> so that he knew he could nurse in the morning.
> I think that also helped.
>
> -- Anita --

Thanks for all your comments Anita, and that does sound like a not so hard
method of night weaning, if it works for us like it did for you!! I think
I'll hold off for a couple of months though and see how things go.